22 Love Lessons from a 22-Year-Old Hopeless Romantic


fourth year nyia bolin

photo by stokes dunavan

photo by stokes dunavan

  1. Unrequited love is a bitch.

  2. Alas, rejection never gets easier. But you CAN get over it, because you’re strong enough to.

  3. You don’t need a relationship to prove your self-worth.

  4. Always keep an open heart. No matter how many times you get hurt.

  5. Modern dating is weird. It will simultaneously diminish your belief in love while also giving you a much-needed ego stroke. So I suggest downloading an app (or multiple). My personal favorite is Hinge, because not only can people like pictures of you, but also aspects of your personality, so you feel like a pretty solid human.

  6. No matter what your family, friends, or even strangers say, NEVER lower your standards.

  7. Broken hearts are necessary for personal growth. If they weren’t, I wouldn’t be writing this article.

  8. All of those feel-good moments when you’re head over heels? Worth it.

  9. Vulnerability is not a weakness.

  10. Being a third wheel is never a good idea. It sucks. Always.

  11. You may feel like everyone around you is in a relationship and super happily in love while you’re sad, desperate, and alone, but remember that you don’t know their relationship. Only what they allow you to see.

  12. Being single doesn’t have to be a negative thing.

  13. Be the person you’re searching for. Possess those qualities within yourself.

  14. Ghosting hurts just as much as getting rejected in any other form.

  15. Heartbreak really can help you create some of your best art.

  16. There is a song for every stage of love and heartbreak (looking at you, “thank u, next”). Make a bomb-ass playlist to feel your feels.

  17. In the moment, it can seem like someone is the perfect person for you, and there’s no one else on this Earth that you are more destined to be with. Time allows for retrospection, and you’ll be surprised by how differently you’ll view a person after a few weeks or months.

  18. If you love someone, tell them how you feel when you feel it.

  19. In the same vein, don’t rush into anything, because timing is everything, and what’s meant to be will happen.

  20. A nice outfit can restore your confidence and make you feel like THAT bitch.

  21. Fictional lovers are better. There, I said it. I don’t know if it’s possible to come across anyone who compares to some of the romantic leads in pop culture.

  22. There is no one way to love. Love hard and follow your heart. Don’t let anyone tell you that your love is wrong or invalid. Only you know your heart.

  23. BONUS: Lastly, love is everywhere. You can find it in so many other places besides a relationship. Whether you seek it or not, it will come to you unfailingly.

Happy Monday